Get Over Being Dumped: Five Questions to Help You Let Go

Being dumped is an agonizing occurrence, but you must get over it if you want to continue your life without regret. Here's 5 questions you should ask yourself to make you understand your own worth and get over the break up.

When you’re trying to get over being dumped, everything seems to be teasing your will. You turn on the radio and all the songs you hear make you rekindle both your good and bad times together. If you read a novel, you can easily relate with the loneliest character. If you buy something at the supermarket, you recall the biscuit you ex loves to eat. For you to overcome these obstructions, we listed five have-you-ever questions that will guide you in putting a period to your pain.

Have you ever pointed out which smiley in the poster describes your current emotion?

Expressive smileys actually tell us that in a galaxy of emotions, every star that stumbles upon us carries a feeling we haven’t felt before. Every moment evokes an emotion only that moment can do. When he looked at you, didn’t you get conscious? When she introduced you to her family, you were anxious. When the boy next door walked her home, didn’t jealousy stab you? So now that you’re furious or anguished because your ex ditched you, let that emotion stay for awhile. Accept human nature and be absorbed in pain. You never know when you’re going to feel hurt again.

Have you ever shared the same story plenty of times you got bored with it?

The best thing your friends can offer to you in this situation is their listening ears. That is quite necessary as it lets you cry from one shoulder to another until you run out of tears. With their empathy, you can share your story over and over again until you yourself are too sick to bear with it. Paulo Coelho, a famous Brazilian author, said in one of his booksellers that once you share your stories, they will be replaced with more wonderful ones. That implies you’ll eventually wake up one day with a desire to share a different experience.

Have you ever detested somebody so much it pulled you down?

To get over being dumped faster, some people opine hatred is the best alternative and it’s true. However, keep in mind that it’s not a positive feeling and therefore, it affects you negatively. If he sends you a friendly email, how would it affect your mood at that hour? If you discover she’s dating someone else, would it not put you in a defensive mode? The solution is not hate. It’s to accept the fact that you’ve already parted ways. It’s to learn how to un-love the person.

Have you ever wondered how victims of world wars 1 and 2 moved on?

It’s because time, in its own time, heals all wounds. That includes a new start for your scarred heart. Some people can get rid of trials swiftly. For some, it takes years to be able to love again. But the only thing that matters is the Persian proverb, "This too shall pass." If you don’t think it’s true, observe the cycle of nature. You see, spring comes after winter, a butterfly comes from a cocoon and sunrise comes after sunset. The list is too long to read. Just don’t get blinded.

Have you ever thought about the purpose of decisions?

They are meant to determine whether you are a knight or a coward. If you decide to be weak, your life doesn’t get any better. If you decide to be strong, you learn to pin your hopes on love again. But come to think of it, it’s quite easy for a child to choose between a bitter gourd and a potato, isn’t it? Well, you are actually in the same situation. It’s just that you’re choosing between a cage and a pair of wings. Tell me, why choose the former when being stuck won’t get you anywhere?

To get over being dumped needs courage. When you’re taken for granted, you feel you don’t deserve any kind of affection. But in time, you would hear your mind and heart opposing to that big lie. When you’ve totally let him go, there’s no need to hide the smile of a wiser and stronger person. If you get an opportunity, thank your ex for making you a better person.

To go on with your life, you need toforget the painful experience; see further advices on getting over a breakup. If you already recuperate from the shock, but decide that he/she is the one for you, find out what you must do in still in love with my ex.